Ladies, it’s time for a makeover… Get dressed for success.
If I stopped you in the street and asked you to define success, what would you say? What comes to mind straight away? It’s said that success is the ability to get up one more time than you’ve been knocked down but I think there’s a little more to it than sheer resilience. In my experience, resilience is the fuel not the destination. Success, the end point, in all its glorious Technicolor, is unique to each of us. So, what does success mean to you? Or, let me put it this way, how will you know when you’ve got there, crossed the finish line?
You’d be surprised how many smart, achieving women are stumped when it comes to answering this question. OK, the textbook answer might spill forth, BUT the definition of success on their terms is a different matter entirely. And therein lies the problem: so many of us don’t know what we’re aiming for or, worse, are in pursuit of an out-dated definition of success.
If any of this is ringing true for you, it’s time for a mindset makeover. Find a little quiet time and use the three visioning techniques below to guide you:
1. Lights, camera, action:
Assume the role of film director. The screenplay is your life – or more specifically, your future life. In the film we’re reaching the final scene, where our heroine (you!) gets the happy ending, the success she’s been striving for in this movie. Picture the scene in all its detail. Where are you? And who with? What are you doing? Wearing? Saying? Bring the picture to life. Make it so vivid you start to feel what it would be like to be there. Now write down what you imagined.
2. Dream it:
Make like the movie above is your favourite all-time film. You never get bored with watching this one. In fact, you’re going to watch it over and over – I’d suggest daily – concentrating on feeling the feelings of succeeding. You’re aiming to make these feelings of success a new habit. Daydream while you brush your teeth. Do it for 21 days and you’ll start to see a shift – this way of thinking becomes a new and natural habit.
3. A new look:
What would you do if you were this person in the movie now, not in some future reality? What would you do differently? How would you behave? So often we’re hard-wired to do what we’ve always done – even if this behaviour is based on thinking that is well past its sell-by-date. Have you ever heard someone trying to give up smoking say something along the lines of “I’m finding if hard to kick the habit, I’ve always been a smoker”? For as long as they continue to see themselves as “a smoker”, they’ll continue to smoke. As soon as they shift their identity to one of a non-smoker, their behaviour begins to change. What identity have you been giving yourself that’s out-dated? What do you now want to say about yourself?
Think of all the advice given about preparing for an interview. Research the company culture. Dress the part. Know what you can offer the role and the company. Show a hunger to develop. You know the rest… Maybe some of the same advice can be taken when it comes to planning for success. How might you act differently to get the part?
So, it’s over to you.
Get crystal clear on your idea of success and then play the part as if it’s yours already. It’s there for the taking…